Friday, June 17, 2016

Love Relationship Advice - How to Find True Love and Make It Last a Lifetime

“A loving relationship is one in which the loved one is free to be himself — to laugh with me, but never at me; to cry with me, but never because of me; to love life, to love himself, to love being loved. Such a relationship is based upon freedom and can never grow in a jealous heart.”
– Leo F. Buscaglia

Even though it is easy to fall in love it is not so easy to find true love. And while finding someone to have a relationship with is relatively easy, being able to make it last a lifetime seems to be the problem for many people. Love relationship advice can make the difference and help couples find their true love, build a happy strong relationship and make it last their lifetime.
Nowadays there are so many different ways of meeting someone; places like the bar and clubs have been super-ceded by online dating sites on the internet, but places like interest or hobby clubs are still good places to meet people who have something in common with you from the start. The safest way to meet someone is still through another friend or family member as a form of recommendation.
When you first get together everything is lovely and your new partner is "the one." They know just what you like and the two of you connect on so many different levels, and they are so considerate and thoughtful, hanging on your every word. And there is nothing wrong with this, but where do you go to from there?
As your relationship goes on you begin to see the cracks... he does not show you the same attentiveness as in the beginning, she does not hang on your every word any more... Perhaps familiarity does breed contempt?
So how do you prevent these things from happening?
Here are 3 things to watch out for in your relationship with your love. By avoiding these, you can improve your chances of making your relationship last for the rest of your life.
1. Sex and Love - many people, especially younger couples, confuse sex with love. This can be because men and women view sex slightly differently. Men see sex as an expression of their masculinity, whereas women see sex as an expression of love and it is for them an emotional experience. Women can think that because he wants to have sex with her he must love her, and yes, it can be an expression of love but not till he knows he loves her in his head and heart. Some might say that men give love to get sex and women give sex to get love.
It is better to go slow in this area and be sure of how you feel about each other before committing to a physical relationship. Once begun, it is unrealistic to think that a couple would stop in order to clarify their feeling for one another. And the hormones that are produced by engaging in sex affect how you think and feel about your partner, and can blind you to things you need to be cautious of.
After some time in your relationship, the sexual side of your relationship can become routine and even a little stale. As you become more comfortable with each other, you may not seem to need sexual encounters the same as you once did and this does not mean that you do not love each other as much anymore, but rather other aspects of your relationship may have grown and deepened.
At this time it is important to talk with each other, find out what your mate wants or needs in this area, and do a revamp from time to time. Sex now should be an expression of love and a time for emotional connection and bonding. It can be a richer experience that the hot steamy desperate rush of young love.
While sex is an important part of a relationship it does not define it. It is still only part of building a good loving relationship.
2. Unrealistic Expectations - it is very easy when in a new relationship to think that your new love is perfect, and you have a specific definition for perfect in your mind. Unfortunately so does your new love. And, as your relationship develops, you can think that your partner "should" be like... your parent, or not like your parent, in other words, you have a mental checklist of what they should be like and how they would treat you.
The other aspect of this problem is that the perfect partner you fell in love with begins to change before your eyes. They stop doing those thoughtful things they did when you first met and start behaving differently. Perhaps they had been putting their "best foot" forward and were now reverting to who they really are.
If you find that you can't love them as they are then you will need to let them go, or you could change your expectations and learn to love them for who they are as you would like them to do for you. Loving someone is to love and accept them, warts and all.
3. Communication Breakdown - women and men think and converse in different ways and the trick is to learn each other's language. It takes time to be able to communicate effectively with each other and this is not any more so than for any other relationship.
Communication is the most difficult skill to learn but also potentially the most rewarding. It is the oil for the wheel of love that makes the world turn round.
Sometimes men and women will just give up saying that "it is a man thing," that he can't talk about it (in actual fact, he won't) or that "it is just girl talk," because he does not want to listen, thinking that she does not have anything interesting to say. This way of thinking, pulls down any chance of building a loving intimate relationship, because while going together can start with a physical attraction, it is the mental and emotional connection that builds on that to form a strong close relationship.
In order to be able to move forward together in a long-term relationship, a couple needs to find a way to communicate with each other, so they understand each other and have shared goals and dreams that they work together toward.
They need to be able to work together on a daily basis by using effective communication, and this takes time to achieve.
I hope that this love relationship advice can help you find your true love and make it last a lifetime. By knowing what to look for and having realistic expectations of what it takes to build a loving strong connection with someone you love, you improve your chances of making it work. Having a close in-depth loving partnership with the person of your dreams means having your feet firmly planted on the ground, and being able to enjoy the blessing of being together.

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